As we launch into the new school year, juniors have an important project ahead: building their college list. This year should be focused on thinking about where you want to go, what makes a good fit for you, and exploring your options through research, visits, and social media exploration.
But while you’re discovering what attracts you to certain colleges, it’s equally important to understand what shouldn’t drive your decision. Today, I’m sharing my top 5 reasons NOT to choose a college—common pitfalls that can lead to poor fits and missed opportunities for growth.
Building Your College List: Getting Started
Before diving into what to avoid, let me share some strategies for effective college exploration:
- Visit schools when possible (within your time and budget constraints)
- Follow colleges on social media – not just general accounts, but specific programs, clubs, marching bands, and divisions that interest you
- Follow admissions pages for tips, student takeovers, and “day in the life” content
- Take virtual tours if you can’t visit in person
- Research beyond basic website information
Now, let’s talk about what NOT to base your college decision on.
Reason #5: Don’t Choose a College Because All Your Friends Are Going There
I get it—we’re social creatures who want to be with our friends. Following the pack feels comfortable and safe. But when you focus on what everyone else is doing, you’re not thinking about your own needs.
The subtitle to this reason: Especially don’t follow a significant other (boyfriend or girlfriend) to college.
This decision often doesn’t work out well, and it’s a terrible reason to choose where you’ll spend four crucial years of your life. You’re an individual with unique needs, interests, and goals that may not align with someone else’s college choice.
Why this matters: Without taking some risks and stepping outside your comfort zone, college doesn’t become the growth opportunity it’s meant to be. The goal is personal development, not maintaining your high school social circle.
Reason #4: Don’t Choose a College Simply Because Your Parents Went There
Parents, I understand this completely. Many of us loved our college experience and want our children to have something similar. Recently, I had a mini reunion with college classmates, and interestingly, none of us had children who attended our alma mater—and that’s actually a good thing. Our kids all chose paths that made more sense for them.
Consider these factors:
- A lot has changed since you attended college—the experience won’t be the same
- Your child isn’t you—they’ll experience college differently regardless
- Different fit factors matter—what worked for you might not work for them
- Expose, don’t impose—share your experience to help them learn, but don’t pressure
It’s fine to expose your student to your alma mater so they can learn about it, but don’t assume it’s automatically the right fit just because it was right for you.
Reason #3: Don’t Pick a School Simply Because It’s the “It” School
Every high school seems to have “that school”—the one everyone is supposedly dying to get into. Often, it’s the state flagship university. While these schools are typically excellent institutions that serve many students well, that doesn’t automatically make them right for your student.
The “it” school problem: Just because a school has prestige or popularity doesn’t mean it aligns with your learning style, academic interests, career goals, or personal preferences.
Better approach: Help your student think about factors that actually matter for their success:
- Their learning style and academic needs
- What they want to study
- What they hope to get out of college (study abroad, sports, theater, leadership opportunities)
- The experiences that will be enriching for them specifically
Financial considerations: Yes, state universities are often economically smart choices, but they’re not the only schools that can offer good financial value. Don’t assume the “it” school is automatically the best financial decision either.
Reason #2: Don’t Rule Out a College Because of a Bad Tour Guide
This might seem like a “don’t rule out” rather than a “don’t choose,” but it’s important guidance for the decision-making process.
Many factors affect tour quality:
- Weather can impact perception—a rainy, dreary day can make any campus feel less appealing
- Tour guide mismatch—not every guide will match your interests or personality
- One person’s perspective—tour guides share their personal experience, which may not reflect your potential experience
Personal example: My son, an athlete, had a tour led by an artist. The information didn’t resonate with his interests, and he wanted to tune out. I had to remind him that this was just one person representing the admissions office, and we could learn more from other sources.
Remember: One tour guide leading 15-20 people around campus is sharing their individual experience. If it doesn’t resonate with your child, that doesn’t mean the school should be eliminated—there are countless different experiences possible at any university.
Reason #1: Don’t Pick a School Just Because of “5 Saturdays in the Fall”
As a huge college football fan, I completely understand the excitement around big-time college sports. The atmosphere, school spirit, and game day experience can be incredibly appealing.
But here’s the reality: There are only 5-6 Saturdays in the fall when that football experience happens. It’s not going to be your entire social scene, and it certainly won’t dictate your academic experience.
The better questions to ask:
- What are you studying?
- What support do you need from learning resources?
- Have you looked at the coursework within your intended major?
- What other opportunities matter to you beyond Saturday afternoons?
Real example: Last year, a student was examining course requirements for their intended major and realized they’d have to take Calculus 3. Their reaction? “That’s not what I want to do.” That’s a much more important factor than what happens on the football field.
School spirit is great, but: When I follow up with students who mention wanting a big campus with lots of school spirit, I ask, “What else are you looking for?” Those “other things” always become more important than game day atmosphere.
The Bigger Picture: Making Thoughtful Decisions
Building your college list should be an exciting process of discovery. You might find surprises—schools you never expected to love or programs you didn’t know existed. The key is making decisions based on factors that will actually impact your daily life and long-term success.
Focus on what really matters:
- Academic programs and quality of instruction
- Learning support and resources
- Opportunities aligned with your interests and goals
- Campus culture that supports your growth
- Financial considerations that make sense for your family
- Size, location, and environment where you’ll thrive
For Juniors: Your Year of Exploration
This is your year for investigating, researching, and discovering places you love. Approach it with an open mind, focus on your individual needs and goals, and don’t let these common pitfalls derail your decision-making process.
Remember: The goal isn’t to find the most popular, prestigious, or socially convenient choice. The goal is to find the place where you’ll grow, learn, and thrive over the next four years.
College should be a transformative experience that challenges you, supports your goals, and helps you become the person you’re meant to be. Make sure your college choice supports that journey.
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